MEMOIRS OF AN IMPERFECT CHRISTIAN: Altitude Check

MEMOIRS OF AN IMPERFECT CHRISTIAN: Altitude Check: So how has everyone been doing with their altitude? Yesterday I did a brief post on how God's sense of humor instantly tested me on what...

Altitude Check

So how has everyone been doing with their altitude? Yesterday I did a brief post on how God's sense of humor instantly tested me on what I said we all should do. Yesterday I encountered 3 different people through my work day that, let's just say, aren't my favorite people for valid reasons but I won't do details because they may read this and it doesn't matter really. I had purposely not talked on the phone to get my spirit right before work, listened to some gospel and had thanked God for another day and first thing in the morning they came one by one. I am great at hellos and goodbyes but conversations when I'm not really fond or feel I have to be guarded with what I say are harder because of my face telling it all. I kept reminding myself of the words I wrote the night before and made more of an effort. I won't lie and say it was easy because I struggle with this. Not long ago the nation witnessed a young man hugging the woman who killed his brother...let's just say I'm no where near there. If I had to score myself I'd definitely get a B- to a high C. I took off for having to fix my facial expressions and my original "Dont talk to me!" thoughts but scored higher for engaging in chit chat. I have a lot of work to do. I also want to point out the Bible doesn't call on us to like each other but to LOVE. If my abusers came in contact with me we are not talking or having chatty conversation. I have forgiven them but I am not subjecting myself to their presence or conversation.(another blog) This is for simple day to day interactions that go on and if we claim to be Christians we need to LOVE as such. This is where Altitude Over Attitude goes into action. It's not because we're better BUT we SHOULD behave better. Disclaimer:I do want to clarify something. If someone has done bodily or mental harm STEER CLEAR. We are called to LOVE but not put up with abuse. You can love from a distance. Matthew 5:16 Even so, let your light shine before men; that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father who is in heaven

MEMOIRS OF AN IMPERFECT CHRISTIAN: Altitude over Attitude

MEMOIRS OF AN IMPERFECT CHRISTIAN: Altitude over Attitude: Am I the only one who wakes up somedays Altitude overwhelmed? By that I mean tired of taking the high road or being the bigger person that G...

MEMOIRS OF AN IMPERFECT CHRISTIAN: Altitude over Attitude

MEMOIRS OF AN IMPERFECT CHRISTIAN: Altitude over Attitude: Am I the only one who wakes up somedays Altitude overwhelmed? By that I mean tired of taking the high road or being the bigger person that G...

Altitude over Attitude

Am I the only one who wakes up somedays Altitude overwhelmed? By that I mean tired of taking the high road or being the bigger person that God calls on us to be. One of the hardest things to do is to be nice to people who aren't nice to you or that you honestly don't like. Last week in bible study we were talking about the difference between like and love. We all came to the conclusion that liking everyone is impossible for us all and some even struggled with loving everyone. No matter how much the pastor tried to explain we should dislike the action not the person the more our eyes rolled at the notion. What do you do on days like this? I retreat and save as much Altitude I can for my day to day dealings at work because you cant openly NOT LIKE your coworkers right? Here are some things I do. I am sure to have some one on one time with just me and God. I won't lie and say I get up early every day and read and meditate but I know for a fact when I do my mood and attitude is better. Then I listen to my favorite gospel singers. If Tasha Cobb or Tamela Mann don't move a stubborn attitude and soften the spirit I need to stay home that day. Lastly, I have to remember WHOSE child I am and represent. Those things are what make me speak to someone I would rather not, help someone that I know wouldn't help me or even overlook pettiness as if I don't know it was done. When we read about turning the other cheek this to me is part of what that looks like. Having ALTITUDE over ATTITUDE is the goal we all are shooting for. Do a daily ALTITUDE check before you leave the house daily because you never know when you'll be called to inspire that very person whose "spirit" you don't like. 🤗.

Being Imperfect Apology

Heyyyyy!!!! I am really kicking myself in the butt as I discovered that I had comments and people following me and my lack of knowledge didnt even realize it. I just discovered comments and messages from 2018! Wow! Now I know and letting you know I wasnt ignoring anyone and actually was feeling down that no one ever replies! It really lifted my spirits to see people were replying but made me mad at myself for not seeing the function I set up! If you dont already please follow my page on Facebook and I plan to begin a vlog next year because I love to talk. 🤗 I also believe we lack stuff like this for my age group and people striving daily to live holy before God but realizing we are still just people too. I will do better.

MEMOIRS OF AN IMPERFECT CHRISTIAN: Tis THE Season

MEMOIRS OF AN IMPERFECT CHRISTIAN: Tis THE Season: There is something about the holiday season that brings so much stress for the last few years for sure. It started the year my brother basic...

Tis THE Season

There is something about the holiday season that brings so much stress for the last few years for sure. It started the year my brother basically disassociated himself from the family so everyone was sad, mad or both. It felt like someone close had died although he's still here. (For the record I was just mad) Then every year following someone close died! Most times more than one person. Being in the Pastors family I dont think people realize the things we see, hear, or get called on for. We are expected to be a constant strength even when we are at our weakest moments ourselves. Then add life, in general, on top of that. I have always been a selfless person which sounds like a great thing in writing, and most times is. But being selfless can at times cause me to forget me because everyone else needs me. I have gotten better at taking time for me, oddly enough right now in my life my workplace is where I get the most emotional reset time because while I'm there I am not dealing with anything but work. Off work my brain is back on full "what needs to be done" mode and if there is a crises going on that is double brain energy. The thing I have realized is while all the craziness is going on if I don't have any time to spiritually plug in I am way worse off. Since the end of October I have been so emotionally drained. Now I'm just drained period. The thing is being drained doesnt make anything stop at all. My care about list is still in need of me. My husband still needs me to wife, the kids still need me to momma, the immediate family, which includes my friends, still needs me to Sharhonda and the list goes on. I have gotten to the point now where I feel like any wrong words said to me out the way by people whose behavior is usually ignored are going to get it full throttle no holds barred because I am using every inch of nice I have in my personal life on my care about list. Meanwhile, since I have noticed feeling this way I am going to start back taking some real time with God to get some real direction and understanding before I end up resentful of those things that tug at me. I know I'm not the only one who gets in this mind frame. I know there are many naysayers when it comes to God and in some cases spirituality but in my life experiences the only solution to when I feel like this is God and His divine intervention. The feelings only intensify the more I don't spend time meditating and praying So I am setting a personal goal for myself to take a break from day to day havoc to have a oneness with God before I go completely nuts. I compel you to do the same if any of the things I said in this blog sound familiar. Meanwhile, take care of you during this time and try to not blow up over holiday dinner.

Work Ethic

Some months back I had surgery and a couple of my besties were over keeping me company while my husband napped before his then night shift began. We had been talking for a while just about frivolous things. Then my husband woke up, he asked about lunch, then his coffee...had I saw this or that? This went on for about 30 minutes until it was time to leave and he stopped gave me a kiss goodbye, told me he loves me, would call me and left. One of my friends instantly said "Awwww that's so sweet how he gave you a kiss bye and said he loves you! I want a husband!" I looked with a blank stare and asked her DID YOU MISS THE 30 MINUTES OF CHAOS PRIOR TO THAT!" She had not really noticed that until I re-ran it to her and we all laughed about it! I told that story to give an example of what people see marriage like versus what it really feels like. I often have people that see our pages and public interactions that we share and comment how cute a couple we are and some say how they wish they were married. I absolutely a ree that we are an adorable couple hands down but I am always transparent about the work we are constantly doing on ourselves and our relationship. In society we are taught that love is all we need. I compel you to change your imagery of marriage before jumping that matrimony broom because although love is a must have, it alone is not enough to keep two people joined or not near as many marriages would end. Andre and I do have the advantage of history with one another so he knew I was crazy way beforehand. Not to mention being people who both have been married before we went in eyes wide open. I also sat down and told him every single fault I have. Then I admitted that he will definitely need to have a relationship with God because the only way those things would change would be through prayer because I was okay with my faults. He must have started right away. But he was willing to work through or accept those things. On the flip side I was willing to accept his as well. A made up mind to stay and work and fight through the not so cute times goes further than love. I know at times I am not so easy to love those are the times beyond love kicks in. My husband is my best friend but he also can drive me crazy like no one else can. But God+Love= a made up mind of dedication for me. So the next time you are looking at that cute couple on Facebook or wherever just know that although the cute love is real so is the work to keep it together. What is your work ethic when it comes to commitment?