Random Thoughts

I can say that I am a big sucker for romance. I love a good love song and the thought of a man sweeping me off my feet just thrills me. Even in my dating prior I always wanted the charming guy, didn’t matter much if he had a job or any of that just be sweet to me and he would have me. Of course my standards have grown tremendously, but I can’t lie I still love romance and I am always calling the man I love “MY HERO” as I bat my eyes when he seems to have rescued me yet again. I of course am grown enough now to know that life is definitely no fairytale but I also know that it doesn’t have to be a horror story either. I am perfectly fine with somewhere between to make a perfect balance. So many women now are perfectly fine with just a male in their life even if he lacks substance beyond physical attraction. I may be crazy but I want it all. This means I want a man that is independent, strong, loving and most of all knows God.  When I tell the man I love that he is my hero it has nothing to do with him saving me from a fire breathing dragon but since day one he is there even if he is fussing along the way he is there to save the day. Men used to expect to be manly in the relationship but now the goal seems to be to do as little as possible and I must say it is not their fault totally. Why work harder when they don’t have to? If its not a requirement why do it? My Momma has told me for years that we teach people how to treat us. How are you teaching someone to treat you? Are you valuing your body as much as you expect him to? Are the words of you mouth edifying or terrifying? Are you a lady or something else? You get my point. We cant expect to have a great man in our life if we are carrying ourselves in a trashy way. Sometimes we dont realize that we are running off potential good guys with our behaviors in how we carry ourselves. Everyone loves a good romance novel but the reality is nothing in real life is that fru fru. Take a strong look at what you represent verses what you say you want verses what you get and start to make changes for the better to get better result.